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Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption & Foster Care
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Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption & Foster Care
Should I Hide My Tattoos If I Want to Adopt? - Weekend Wisdom
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Question: My husband and I want to adopt a baby. We are working with an adoption attorney, and we have to make a book about us and our lives to be shown to women and girls who are considering adoption for their baby. My husband has full-sleeve tattoos on both arms and on his neck. I am worried that it might be a turnoff for a girl choosing a family. Should we use pictures where his tattoos don’t show to up our chances?
Resources:
- Preparing an Adoptive Parent Profile (video)
- Creating Your Adoptive Parent Profile (article)
- How To Create a Compelling Adoption Profile (1 hr. CreatingaFamilyEd.org online course w/ certificate of completion available)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Please pardon any errors, this is an automated transcript.
Welcome to Weekend Wisdom by Creating a Family. Weekend Wisdom is our podcast that allows us to answer your questions. So maybe I should say it's actually your podcast because it's your questions that we are answering.
We also have a long form where we interview an expert every week. But this one is, this is your show here. So without further ado, let me jump into the question.
My husband and I want to adopt a baby. We are working with an adoption attorney and we have to make a book about us and our life to be shown to women and girls who are considering adoption for their baby.
My husband has full sleeves tattoos on both arms and on his neck. I am worried that it might be a turnoff for a girl choosing a family. Should we use picks where his tats don't show to up our chances?
My simple answer is no, And there's a couple of reasons why that I don't think that you should select pictures that don't show his tattoos. One, it isn't honest.
And this is the most important decision that this woman is making. She also may be making it if her partner is involved, so it may be two of them making it. But this is the most important decision she's going to make in her life most likely.
So she deserves to have all the information possible. And two, if you meet in person prior to her making the decision, which is common, she's going to see the tattoos anyway.
And if the pictures didn't show them, she may feel deceived. And the third reason that I think you should not hide your husband's tattoos is that for all you know, this woman who is making the decision on whether or not to place her child for adoption may love tats.
For all you know, she may have a full sleeve herself. And for all you know, she may choose you and your husband because of his tattoos. You know, moms have many,
many reasons why they choose an adoptive family, and you can never tell what's going to shift the balance to you. So the best advice is to be yourself and be fully yourself.
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